When you are single - What do you do to pass the time?

Hey Ladi · 01-28-2002, 02:37 PM

What do you do when you find yourself suddenly single again? If it was your idea or not, what helps you fill the time, so you don't dwell on it?

Useless sex? Heavy drinking? Catch up on your reading?

Doc · 01-28-2002, 02:43 PM

Quote:Heavy drinking?

If it's not on my terms, yes. Not something I'm too proud of either

I think the best thing to do is to try to get some kind of normacy back in your life. Try to do some of the same things you did before, it's never a good idea to just dwell on it and make yourself feel even more like shit

Kid A · 01-28-2002, 02:45 PM

Being single is not just a state of relationship, it's a state of mind. I relish the fact that I don't have some broad dragging me all over the place making nice with people and all that happy shit.

I enjoy the fact that I can be alone to do whatever I please without even thinking about what someone else wants to do.

Sure, I miss the sex, but other than that, I love being single.

The key is to find something you like to do, or just learn to like not doing anything. I think the latter becomes easier as we grow older. It's been a long time since I've been bored.

BeckyDC · 01-28-2002, 03:53 PM

Visiting the bar more often, useless sex with my 'bob' more, watch more pornos, and eat more.

Not that any of that is bad, but I have been'single' for almost a year now. nerver really opened myself up before..

Kid A · 01-28-2002, 04:00 PM

Maybe we should start a sex support group for each other. You know, when you've been alone for a while and just need a good rogering... :fuckin:

Pfft, who am I kidding? One shot with me and you girls would be all in love with me and shit. :real good: :lol: :real good:

BeckyDC · 01-28-2002, 04:03 PM

Quote:good rogering...

that's a new one lol

Arpikarhu · 01-28-2002, 04:14 PM

I think its wonderful that you have all found ways to enjoy the single life. Just remember that your special someone is out there. There is a garden inside each and every one of you waiting to blossom in the love of another. peace be with you

Hey Ladi · 01-28-2002, 04:15 PM

Quote:One shot with me and you girls would be all in love with me and shit. :real good: :lol: :real good:

Yeah, that's another thing... How come guys seem to think that if you lay a girl once, and she wants to do it again, she must want to hold you down and trap you. Why can't she just think you'd make a good bed pair? How do you tell someone that?

Quote:find yourself suddenly single again

And, in an odd twist... I seem to have the song Suddenly Seymore, from Little Shop of Horrors, stuck in my head.

Kid A · 01-28-2002, 04:42 PM

Quote:Yeah, that's another thing... How come guys seem to think that if you lay a girl once, and she wants to do it again, she must want to hold you down and trap you. Why can't she just think you'd make a good bed pair? How do you tell someone that?

Girls often put a different value on sex than men do. For me, if a chick is comfortable with herself, and makes me comfortable as well, things usually go pretty well. If it's awkward, I don't have the patience.

When sex is good, it's generally a sign of comfort between two people. That being said, I think just telling someone, "I like fucking you, but don't want to take it much beyond that" should be appropriate. I mean sure, they may take it harshly, but you have to be honest when it comes to people you're banging.

Arpikarhu · 01-28-2002, 04:47 PM

Quote:if a chick is comfortable with herself, and makes me comfortable as well, things usually go pretty well.

like you sleep with chicks : Confused

norts derisively::

Hey Ladi · 01-28-2002, 04:57 PM

Kid Afrika Wrote:When sex is good, it's generally a sign of comfort between two people. That being said, I think just telling someone, "I like fucking you, but don't want to take it much beyond that" should be appropriate. I mean sure, they may take it harshly, but you have to be honest when it comes to people you're banging.

This sounds like the Nada Surf song, Popular :lol:

..."When someone says she preferres the company of others
To your exclusive company,
But if you're honest, and direct,
And avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you brake the news,
The boy will respect you for your frankness,
And honestly he'll apeciate the kind of straight foward manner
In which you told him your decision
Unless he's a real jerk or a cry baby you will remain friends"...

Kid A · 01-28-2002, 04:59 PM

arpi, shut up dick. What? I should bang maynard like you do? That's just so passe' at this point. :no, really, fuck off:

PollyannaFlower46 · 01-28-2002, 05:10 PM

I've been single for a while now, but after my last long term serious relationship ended a little less than a year ago, I caught up with friends who I hadn't seen on a regular basis, did better in school, had a few meaningless flings, and just basically took care of me....oh and of course when it first ended...drank like an alcoholic.

Edited By PollyannaFlower46 on Jan. 28 2002 at 12:11

Maynard · 01-28-2002, 05:11 PM

Kid Afrika Wrote:arpi, shut up dick. What? I should bang maynard like you do? That's just so passe' at this point. :no, really, fuck off:

No, you should just keep stalking VG like you have been. You'll get further with her than with me.

Rape Fantasizer · 01-28-2002, 05:16 PM

It sucks at first, especially when it is sudden, but enjoy it. For a while I was depressed about it, but now I am loving my freedom.

Rape Fantasizer · 01-28-2002, 05:20 PM

BeckyDC Wrote:useless sex with my 'bob' more

hey now, that is NOT useless.

Kid A · 01-28-2002, 05:28 PM

Quote:No, you should just keep stalking VG like you have been. You'll get further with her than with me.

It's not stalking, it's "courting". Get it right.

And I know you want me. :eek:

Arpikarhu · 01-28-2002, 06:07 PM

maynerd is a shitty lay by the by.

Maynard · 01-28-2002, 06:25 PM

Arpikarhu Wrote:maynerd is a shitty lay by the by.

Well, NO ONE on the internet can confirm nor deny your dumb as dog shit accusations. Why not keep these stupid shit comments to yourself. You're just trying to cause trouble before you leave. DIE DIE DIE DOGSHIT BREATH!

Arpikarhu · 01-28-2002, 06:26 PM

Maynard Wrote:
Quote:maynerd is a shitty lay by the by.
Well, NO ONE on the internet can confirm nor deny your dumb as dog shit accusations. Why not keep these stupid shit comments to yourself. You're just trying to cause trouble before you leave. DIE DIE DIE DOGSHIT BREATH!

while all this may be true, you are still a shitty lay