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| Brokenjaw Always will bow down to the power of the Faceman!!!! | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 7:08 PM |    | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Nov. 00  | Ok I just got home from my cousins funeral today. I want to know why people feel the need to take pictures and video tape the damn service? Why would you want to have that? I mean really I want to remember my cousin the way he was when he was alive, not sitting there in an ern. Please if you know why people do this please explain. and The Hitman Kwyjibo newest graduate 5/7/01 | ||||
| Tequila Fez claims this land in the name of Portugal! Why worry about the train if it never makes it around the tracks?? IrishAlkey wuz here!!! | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 7:14 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Veteran Registered: Jan. 01 | Sorry to hear about your loss I dont have an answer for your question  AOL - oanda1027fm | ||||
| mikeWOW | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 7:19 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Sep. 00 | sorry bud. i never heard of that. that is messed up "i hate people that dont get it!" | ||||
| Rone | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 7:19 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Jan. 01 | i've never seen that before. who would actually go back and either look at the pictures or watch the video tape? i'd imagine that to be a little creepy. | ||||
| hornygoatweed23 I've Got A Vagina With Teeth. G.O.O.F.B.A.H.G.S. Dragoon Battalion My friends call me Weed | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 7:22 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Jan. 01 | Brokenjaw, first, my condolencses to you and your family. I've never heard of anyone taping and taking pics at a funeral or even a viewing. To me, thats not only rude, but just uncalled for.  | ||||
| Lgaia | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 7:22 PM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Oct. 00 | I'm very sorry to hear about your loss.I have only heard of people that aren't American doing that. Polish people I know do it for some reason. I think with them it has to do with remembering thier death. I dont know. I did find it kind of creepy when the polish home care nurse who looked after my boyfriends grandfather whipped out a camera.... | ||||
| The Hitman | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 7:51 PM | | |||
| Hanger-On Registered: May. 01 | First and foremost my condolences go out to u man and if u wanna talk u know where to find me. Second that is seriously creepy come on who's gonna want to see that video??? | ||||
| Sgt Krusty | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 7:57 PM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Oct. 00 | Sorry for your loss, Broken. I have never heard of such a thing, and would never condone one. Who would ever watch? I guess this started with baby tapes in the delivery room. But the concept has apparently gotten out of hand. Sorry about your cousin.  Sig by Pantera.Thanks Filzy/CLS. Allied with Kwyjibo.E-Mail Me or SgtKrusty@opieanthony.com I've adoptedSpunk Bubbles & Crapmatic 2000for 10 days. If they ever decide to post again. | ||||
I Need An Old Priest And A Young Priest | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 7:59 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Oct. 00 | Brokenjaw oh man sorry to hear that. But as far as the picture and video, you got me. Adopted Newbie Within the Protected Big Arms: Jesus H Christ Officially Part of JWO: skitchr4u & JasonFromRiverEdge | ||||
| Brokenjaw Always will bow down to the power of the Faceman!!!! | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 8:32 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Nov. 00 | First and foremost I would like to thankyou all for your kind words.quote: Ya know its funny you should say that because it was a polish funeral. I also remember now that at my grandfathers funeral the cousin that was burried today was trying to take pictures of him and I remeber my mother going nuts on him. I have asked my mother about this and she does not know why they do it either. and The Hitman Kwyjibo newest graduate 5/7/01 | ||||
| Sephiroth | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 8:37 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Dec. 00 | I know the catholic Church looks down on taping religous events. But it shouldnt even have to be stated. Soory about Everything Broken. You know we're here for you/  "It's no secret that a conscience can sometimes be a pest, It's no secret that ambition bites the nails of success, Every artist is a coward, Every poet is a thief They all kill their inspiration and sing about their grief." -U2 Have any anime questions? Send me a E-mail or IM me at AIM: Hitokiri182 I have room for 2 newbies. If you wish to be adopted, contact me. | ||||
| jewdown | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 8:38 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Jan. 01 | Brokenjaw, my condolences. I'm only guessing here bro. We all know that people morn in their own way. Maybe taking pictures and taping it helps take thier mind off of the reality of it for a little. I do agree that it is creepy though. When you take out the family pictures, why would you want to look at those pics? It's pretty damn morbid. | ||||
| SweetAngel | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 8:49 PM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: May. 01 | Hey Broken, I'm really sorry about your cousin. As for why people take pictures or videos at a wake or funeral, I think I saw something about that in Dear Abby awhile ago. It had something to do with people wanting to remember the whole life of the person, along the lines of photographing or videotaping births, communions, weddings, etc. I think it's kind of bizarre though. Maybe there were relatives who could not make it to the funeral. But that's kind of bizarre too. Anyway, my condolences to you and your family, and I'm here for my "adopter" if you need to talk.  | ||||
| FeelMyFunBags | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 9:47 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Jan. 01 | First of all, my condolences go out to you and your family. The only reason I can think that someone may tape a funeral or take pictures is because they have a hard time letting go. They might not know how to handle their grief, or as people said before it could just be a cultural thing.  All I've undergone I will keep on Underneath it all We feel so small The heavens fall But still we crawl All I've undergone I will keep on | ||||
| bluetarp | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 9:59 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Jan. 01 | Sorry to hear about your loss. I too have never seen this practice of taking pictures or video, but it does seem strange.  Inquiring minds want to know! | ||||
| adolescentmasturbator | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 10:07 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Jan. 01 | I hope you can pull through your loss brokenjaw. As for the video tape it sounds a bit morbid for me.  Email me at sticksituation22@yahoo.com or pinkorag@yahoo.com IM me at stickysituation2 or pinkorag | ||||
| TeenSlut | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 10:57 PM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Apr. 01 | Brokenjaw, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. To answer your question, I know people from certain cultures view funerals as more of a celebration because they think the deceased is in a better place. They take pictures to remember this day that they view as equally important and joyful as a baptism or wedding. I don't know if that's the reason all people do it but i hope it answers your question a little. And again, I'm really sorry for your loss, my condolences to you and your family. | ||||
Nay. We are but men. ROCK. The man with the plan. | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 11:46 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Oct. 00 | Sorry to hear about your loss, man.... As far as this is concerned though... quote: Umm... putting the "fun" back into funeral I guess? I really have no clue why this would be done, nor have I ever heard of it being done before. However, the close side of my family is the Italian side, so for us, basically a funeral is a family reunion of sorts. The wakes are usually pretty laid back as far as conversation goes, but of course the dress is formal... Why would anyone take pics? I don't even like to GO UP TO the body...  Me droogies: Two positions currently available. | ||||
| fatty chopped meat | posted on 05-14-2001 @ 11:55 PM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Jan. 01 | brokenjaw my prayers go out to you and the fam on the loss my brother. i know this chick who in college had a miscarriage and actually carried the baby full term but it was a stillbirth. the poor girl was so heartbroken that she took pics of her holding the deceased in her arms as it it were alive. she even asked the hospital staff to dress the baby in some clothes. yeah i was a bit weirded out by it when i saw the pics but it made her happy knowing at least she had a few pics of the baby.  Justin Credible is under my wing since 4-12-01 | ||||
| The Brain | posted on 05-15-2001 @ 12:05 AM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Feb. 01 | First off, Broken, my condolences to you and yours. As far as the video was concerned, were there any family members or close friends who could not attend the funeral, but perhaps wanted to see how the service went, as a means to somehow pay their last respects? It may sound morbid, but that might have been one reason.  "ARE YOU PONDERING WHAT I'M PONDERING?" | ||||
| suicidalsteve | posted on 05-15-2001 @ 2:07 AM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Jan. 01 | Really sorry to hear about your loss man. But actually I can speak from experience here and say that yeah certain cultures do that kinda thing as a celebration of the dead. Only know this because I was at a funeral a few years back and there was this guy who was taking pictures and this other guy who was really close to the girl who passed away like snapped and just attacked the guy. it was not a pretty sight at all considering the circumstances. turns out the guy was one of those people who did believe in celebrating death rather than mourning over it. was part of his culture. once again, really sorry to hear the bad news. | ||||
| KOATAS | posted on 05-15-2001 @ 9:10 AM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Oct. 00 | Sorry for your loss, this will be in my families prayers tonight. What everyone is saying about certain cultures wanting to celebrate death as a way of going to a better place is true. My wife's family is Russian/Polish and there are a few cousins/Uncles who do this. I don't agree with it, but it is done On a personal note. Funerals are a freaky thing. I don't want people being somber at mine. I would perfer a party with loud music and dancing. Beer and cookies. I want everyone to celebrate the kind of person that I am, not go by some traditional thought pattern. That is my opinion for me.  | ||||
| heyladiladi STONER ON THE SNUKA CBH ROTISSERIE | posted on 05-15-2001 @ 9:16 AM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: May. 01 | I'm sorry for your loss. I acctually just heard about this recently. Someone told me about a woman they knew who taped her Mother's funeral. We were confused too. I have another question about Funeral etiquette. I went to one recently, and a woman was wearing PINK & WHITE! I thought the only appropriate colors were black, gray, dark blue, etc. (Even the guys with tatoos & blue hair wore suits.) Adopted by RonRedDog ~~> "I brought my Pencil.... Gimme somethin' to write on!" | ||||
| Doc Smith I Love Anthony Zinni | posted on 05-15-2001 @ 9:23 AM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Sep. 00 | Sorry about your loss bro, you know you have my condolances About the taping thing, I find it a little strange myself, but I can think of one explanation. Everyone needs to say goodbye in their own way. Some people show lots of emotion at the service, other like to sit quietly and remember the person. I guess it's possible that others would like to remember the person privatley in their own home later, not out in public with the rest of the family and friends of the deceased. In their own way, they want to pay their respects and remember the deceased, but were did not want to break down and cry in front of others But hey, what the hell do I know.  | ||||
| Brokenjaw Always will bow down to the power of the Faceman!!!! | posted on 05-15-2001 @ 8:33 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Nov. 00 | I would like to thankyou all again for your kind words and your in-put on my question. You are all good people with big hearts. Thank you again. Sweetangel graduate 5/15/01 The Hitman graduate 5/15/01 This message was edited by Brokenjaw on 5-15-01 @ 8:36 PM | ||||
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