10-29-2002, 03:25 PM
I know where you're coming from. I used to be really trusting of people, but I got burned many times because of it (financially, emotionally, etc.). Now that I'm older, I'm still trusting, but not right off the bat - it is something that is earned, and while I'll still offer my help, the degree of help I offer is based upon how wll I know you, or at least how well I feel I know you.
For years I was used to doing things on my own - I piad my way through college, I got my own jobs, I never relied on anyone - because when I did, it never panned out. Only until recently have I been offered help and gotten it (to get the house, for example). There's no way I would be able to get it on my own, but the in-laws offered and have come though - and for that, I am grateful. It still doesn't change my views on being self-reliant, however.
For years I was used to doing things on my own - I piad my way through college, I got my own jobs, I never relied on anyone - because when I did, it never panned out. Only until recently have I been offered help and gotten it (to get the house, for example). There's no way I would be able to get it on my own, but the in-laws offered and have come though - and for that, I am grateful. It still doesn't change my views on being self-reliant, however.