Attitude adjustment - Can people really change?

Kid Afrika · 05-23-2002, 04:22 AM

We all have our problems, social inequities, etc.

But, how far can we go to correct them?

My intolerance for people to understand me has been a constant barrier in my life. I try to work on it, but feedback is scarce.

As with anything, people are about 10x more likely to criticize or complain than they are to praise.

How do you cope with the doldrums of daily life?

Galt · 05-23-2002, 04:25 AM

I realize that when countless people tell me the same thing, that maybe they're not all wrong and maybe it's not just because they don't "understand" me.

Lord Magus · 05-23-2002, 04:36 AM

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SLASH · 05-23-2002, 04:46 AM

Positive Affirmations.

Keyser Soze · 05-23-2002, 06:27 AM

I'm good enough, i'm smart enough, and doggonnit, people like me.

Arthur Dent · 05-23-2002, 07:55 AM

In all seriousness, if you look back on who you were 5 years ago and don't see a significant difference between who you were then and who you are now, then somethings wrong. If 5 years from now your not significantly different from who you are right now, than somethings wrong. You should be contantly changing. Either because you make a real effort or just because of life and the things that happen to you.

Yes, people change all the time. It's just a slow process. If you don't, it's because your stubborn, unyielding, and ultimately stagnant.

OAS · 05-23-2002, 12:40 PM

Quote:My intolerance for people to understand me has been a constant barrier in my life. I try to work on it, but feedback is scarce.

Look at the last sentence in this statement. If there is anyone on the planet that has been givin more than adequate feedback on your intolerance for people, you would win the trophy. If you want to change, digest the feedback. Most peoples message to you seems to come through loud and clear.

Luna · 05-23-2002, 01:20 PM

Quote:I realize that when countless people tell me the same thing, that maybe they're not all wrong and maybe it's not just because they don't "understand" me.

If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, well....it must be a ..........

There is a little lesson we all face at some point in our lives. It's called humility. Humility is not a bad or negative thing. Being humble has it's benefits.

Kid, if you are happy with yourself that is all that matters and I say this to you in an unbiased manner. Just keep in mind that everybody has some sort of emotional defecit. People are not perfect.
We all have shortcomings, but, on the flip side, we all have potential for greatness, as well.

...and that's all I have to say about that.

OAS · 05-23-2002, 01:26 PM

Quote:...and that's all I have to say about that.

Luna Gump has spoken.:rofl:

Luna · 05-23-2002, 01:28 PM

I knew someone would get that! :lol:

Kid Afrika · 05-23-2002, 02:28 PM

Quote:If there is anyone on the planet that has been givin more than adequate feedback on your intolerance for people, you would win the trophy.

You can not give an adequate assessment of my based solely on my posts on this or any other message board. Thusly, your feedback is not valid. The feedback of my co-workers is more what I am looking for.

Arthur Dent · 05-23-2002, 02:49 PM

Quote:You can not give an adequate assessment of my based solely on my posts on this or any other message board.

But your attitude on this or any other message board CAN be adequately assessed. Whoever or whatever you are in RL doesn't mean jack shit here. Only what you show here matters here. Thusly, the feedback you have received here about you here has importance here. Do you hear?

Maynard · 05-23-2002, 02:49 PM

Quote:The feedback of my co-workers is more what I am looking for.

Then you should have stated that in the first place. She was trying to give you some advice on this topic, then you snap at her telling her she doesn't know you. You should have been a little more clear in the first place.

As for co-workers. I basically ignore them unless they are all making the same comment in which case I'll take a serious look at it. More people on the board know me better than my co-workers. But to really make attitude adjustments, I take advice from family, and friends mostly.

OAS · 05-23-2002, 02:58 PM

Quote:Thusly, your feedback is not valid.

:bouncer: :bouncer: Yippeee, I'm not valid! :bouncer: :bouncer:
Psssst, he is trying to rile us up and start an argument. Don't give in. Agree with him, it pisses him off. Don't tell him I told you though.

Luna · 05-23-2002, 03:02 PM

tupid:

Ken'sPen · 05-23-2002, 03:04 PM

Doesn't this thread belong in annoying gimmicks?

Edited By Ken'sPen on May 23 2002 at 11:04

Grumpy · 05-23-2002, 03:11 PM

Maynard · 05-23-2002, 03:11 PM

Don't all of YOUR posts beling there as well?

Kid Afrika · 05-23-2002, 03:12 PM

Quote:She was trying to give you some advice on this topic, then you snap at her telling her she doesn't know you.

I didn't snap at her. I actually appreciated her advice. It was oas that accused me to being oblivious to feedback, and it was him that I was referring to.

As for this thread, I was asking about how other people deal with their problems of communication or just the bullshit of having to deal with people.

I really don't mind dealing with most people, but "mousey" people annoy the shit out of me. I guess I have a mechanism that makes me distrust anyone that seems sneaky or full of shit.

I prefer to have things said to me in a very straight-forward and blunt manner. I don't need the candy-coated pleasantries that come with dealing with some people. However, I realize that you have to cater to people's mannerisms if you expect them to help you or to do what you want them to.

So, I am working on this since I went to a seminar recently and I wondered how you guys deal with this type of shit in your daily lives. I am NOT asking you to pass judgement on me based on what little you know of me.

Gooch · 05-23-2002, 03:18 PM

seminar...is that what they call therapy these days?!?! :-D