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| MamA CaZ | posted on 09-13-2001 @ 11:02 PM |    | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Jan. 01  | i called my best friend megan today to wish her a happy bday (havent talked to her in a few weeks) left a message.. her roomate called me back around 9 & told me megan is home with her parents, her boyfriend was killed in the collapse. Well... they havent heard from him.. He was being evacuated when the first building was hit & by that time no one would have THOUGHT we were being attacked... they just thought for safety reasons they should get out.. So he stopped to use the bathroom.. Everyone he worked with made it out. They were from the 82nd floor.. even tho it was the second building to be hit it was the first to collapse. Megan found out by actually SEEING the buildings on fire.. by the time she got home, Mario's building had collapse. I can NEVER understand what was going through her mind. i feel so helpless... i forgot he worked downtown & i didnt even think to call her & make sure he was ok. I was worried about my own father. Shes not doing well. I spoke to her mother tonight & she told me Megan is in shock. I dont know HOW she is going to get through this.. all i want to do is console her & i can't.. They don't want too many people around her right now, so she is just with her family. i feel like such a horrible friend because i havent been in touch with her as much as I used to. And last time we spoke she went on & on about how wonderful mario is & how he is "the one" They started dating about 8 months ago & were talking marriage... We tried to make plans to get together, but because she lived in queens & me having the baby we never got around to it.. i never got to meet him... i feel so god damn helpless & selfish because im thanking god it wasnt MY boyfriend, or MY father, or MY sister. And what can i do? They caught 2 men @ JFK & 2 at Laguardia with fake pilot's liscences' & box cutters & such... ATTEMPTING to do more.. They are in our city... they are amongst us & we have no clue what is going to happen. My father has to go to *ground zero* tomorrow & help out.. bringing supplies & cleaning up.. I'm terrified, i dont want him to go... And all those people! Its now 3 days later & 2 people I love are being DIRECTLY affected by this. --syko, lyneday, kerry & i found out last night our friend Josh was on the 102nd floor when the first plane hit.. he was one of my cousin's best friends..his mother heard from him around 9am Tuesday & hasn't been heard from since. I'm a mess... what do i do...? How do you console someone through this? Megan & i have been through so much together & I have no clue how to take her pain away. I grew up in new york. My father helped build those towers & now he is going to help take away their remains. I love this city.. People outside can never understand the true devistation we are going through. It has become our LIVES now. We wake up, we put on the TV.. we see EVERYTHING & HEAR EVERYTHING.. about our neighbors & the loss of their loved ones.. Now, they started letting planes fly out of the airports & what normally would be a plane flying over, has become a sense of fear.. Last night we saw fire engines going down the street & everyone can't help but wonder... what is next...People are walking around, even here in Long Island, in a daze..afraid to smile. Please,... everyone.. hold your loved ones & thank god you are with them. If there is ANYTHING to learn from this, it is to LIVE in the moment. It gives you a different perspective on life.. Problems that seemed to be unsolvable, seem so minor to me now. Thank you for letting me have a place to express my emotions. I will be lighting my candle tomorrow night. | ||||
| Nana's Precious | posted on 09-13-2001 @ 11:21 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Sep. 00 | Mama I am so sorry for your friends grief, she is one of thousands of such stories for which we cannot even grasp the gravity. as for you stay strong. what these animals want is to break our resolve. if they break us , then they have won. there are numerous outlets we have to vent and speak to people about the travesty we have witnessed. understand that our area and the D.C. and Pittsburgh areas have the worlds attention and prayers. most importantly the most sincere and intense prayers are coming from our own great nation. prayers and tears and consolation is how we shall get through this and not allow evil to triumph.... "what, I thought we were all just having fun..." guardian of f_tarded | ||||
| TeenSlut | posted on 09-13-2001 @ 11:48 PM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Apr. 01 | Mama, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's loss, I really am.quote: You're not a horrible friend. If you were a bad friend you wouldn't have called to wish her a happy birthday and you also wouldn't be so distraught over her misfortune. You sound like a great friend to me. Don't blame yourself for not remembering where her boyfriend worked. You're only human, you're not going to remember everything that has been told to you. And about you feeling selfish for being happy that it wasn't your boyfriend or family member that was killed, that is only natural. People all over the country are feeling the same way. You're not selfish at all, you're just reacting how thousands of other people are over this tragedy. Right now, just make sure your friend knows that you're there for her. It's a really comforting feeling knowing that people care. In times like this when people are going through so much they seem to forget the fact that people do care about what they're going through. Let her know that you're there for her and tell her how much you love her. Maybe even tell her what you wrote here. I guarantee she doesn't think of you as a bad friend. Also, don't feel so helpless, there isn't much you can do and you're doing something just by worrying about your friend. Try to keep your head up sweetheart.  | ||||
| brodieman | posted on 09-14-2001 @ 2:00 AM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Jun. 01 | mama, im so sorry to hear the news, my friends cousin is an nyc cop who is (was) in one of hte buildings when they fell, he has not turned up yet... hun, in the few months that i have known you i have come to consider you a good friend, you have been there to talk to me and if you need anything...ANYTHING...you just let me know, you know how to get ahold of me love you, eric NEVER FORGET  "No poor bastard ever won a war by dying for his country. He won it by making other bastards die for their country."-George S. Patton, General (1885-1945) | ||||
| MamA CaZ | posted on 09-14-2001 @ 4:51 PM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Jan. 01 | thank you for all your well wishes.. I'm doing *better* today... Just haven't really done anything. Can't watch the TV. Just being lazy... i dont know | ||||
| ~FallenAingL~ Unofficial Biggest Whore of OA.com G.O.O.F.B.A.H.G.S. Reaver Strike Battalion Rage Brother #1, Paladin of Hatred Where's my snare? I have no snare in my headphones. | posted on 09-14-2001 @ 4:59 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Jun. 01 | Caz, from what I've read and what you've shown me, you are an amazing friend as well as an amazing woman. I know how you feel, (You know why) and I want you to know that I as well as many other 'family' members here at OA.com are completely here for you. Please email me at paladinree@hotmail.com or message me at my SN 'falenaingl'. I'll be back later tonight after I come back from the hospital. God bless you, mon chere'. Thine In Honor, ~FallenAingL~ "But, for a certainty back then, we loved so many and yet hated so much, we hurt others and hurt ourselves. Yet, even then we ran like the wind, whilst our laughter echoed under cerulean skies..." -Schala 'Kid' Zeal | ||||
| Shelle Bink True star of the celebrity softball game: the redhead in section 101. | posted on 09-14-2001 @ 10:43 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Jul. 01 | Caz, You Are A Good Friend. You Care Enough To Find Out About Your Friends. You Didn't Do Anything Wrong. I Feel Helpless... My Half Brother Is In Pain. I Can't See Him Like This. He Was So Happy A Week Ago, Now He Is In Shambles. I Hate This Week. I Hate Those Who Have Caused All This Pain. *HUGS* We'll Get Through This Together...  I'm not letting them think they've won, If they think it's over, I'll keep this going til the end, This has only just begun | ||||
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