11-25-2003, 08:55 PM
Most women don't want a man who is shallow enough to only want her for her body. If that was the case, she'd be satisfied with the guys who buy her drinks in a bar, or even the construction workers who wolf whistle at her. Don't get me wrong... women do want their guys to think they're the sexiest thing since Brigette Bardot, but they want someone to think they're special and unique, and to discover and appreciate more than just the surface.
This goes for women as well as for men...Don't be unrealistic in eliminated others. If you're not perfect, and no one is, don't expect perfection. So what if the dude looks like he belongs on MulletsGalore -- he might be a great guy who just needs a haircut and a shave. Sure, some all want a hip, stylish man, but is it really going to take a lot of effort to buy the fella a few new shirts and convince him that he'd look better without that Achey Breaky Heart look? face it, most men don't have a great sense of style, and couldn't give a rat's ass about how they look.
That's not to say you shouldn't seek someone you find attractive! But there's a difference between wanting to find someone physically appealing, and deciding whether or not they're the one for you based on something so superficial as one's chest, haircut, or waistline.
Then there's the baggage factor. No one wants someone with emotional baggage. Well, here's the truth. Everyone has baggage. Everyone has experienced heartache and loss. Everyone has broken up with someone, and if you're an adult who has never had a relationship that's lasted more than a week, then that's baggage in itself! It's not the amount of baggage one has, it's how well you carry it. Some people could have had 5 divorces and be less emotionally scarred than someone who had one relationship with a high school sweetheart. You can't dismiss someone based on what has happened to them in the past, only by how well they cope with it NOW.
Now get out there and knock'em dead. My bill is in the mail.
This goes for women as well as for men...Don't be unrealistic in eliminated others. If you're not perfect, and no one is, don't expect perfection. So what if the dude looks like he belongs on MulletsGalore -- he might be a great guy who just needs a haircut and a shave. Sure, some all want a hip, stylish man, but is it really going to take a lot of effort to buy the fella a few new shirts and convince him that he'd look better without that Achey Breaky Heart look? face it, most men don't have a great sense of style, and couldn't give a rat's ass about how they look.
That's not to say you shouldn't seek someone you find attractive! But there's a difference between wanting to find someone physically appealing, and deciding whether or not they're the one for you based on something so superficial as one's chest, haircut, or waistline.
Then there's the baggage factor. No one wants someone with emotional baggage. Well, here's the truth. Everyone has baggage. Everyone has experienced heartache and loss. Everyone has broken up with someone, and if you're an adult who has never had a relationship that's lasted more than a week, then that's baggage in itself! It's not the amount of baggage one has, it's how well you carry it. Some people could have had 5 divorces and be less emotionally scarred than someone who had one relationship with a high school sweetheart. You can't dismiss someone based on what has happened to them in the past, only by how well they cope with it NOW.
Now get out there and knock'em dead. My bill is in the mail.
