04-18-2004, 02:51 PM
Rant. Be forewarned.
I come from a divorced family. My dad was married and divorced prior to my mother. My dad is one of two, and has of course been divorced. My Mother is one of seven, 3 of whom have been divorced. My brother is divorced. My sister was just married in March and that marriage will actually have a great chance of lasting.
What's all this mean? I'm scared like a little bitch of getting married. I say time and time again that I will NEVER be married, and everyone gives you the story of how they said the same thing, and look where they ended up. I've broken up with 2 long term girlfriends because the desire for marriage was verbalized.
In all seriousness, how long can someone fend it off? When is the point at which your free will just breaks down and becomes a submissive mini-van driving nothing? I am not afraid of having to give up half, I'm afraid of becoming all of my friends that look like caged animals in their marriages.
I have this friend who used to be the man at parties and pickup games of any sport, the guy to yell road trip, etc etc etc. He's married with 2 kids, and he works his BALLS off at 3 jobs. He works bad hours so that he will have the most time with his kids as possible before they hit school age. He wants to come out and play basketball with us once a week, and his wife throws a tantrum. We play basketball from midnight-2AM, and his fucking wife pulls the "I spend all day with your children, and you want to go play basketball?"......mind you, this broad doesn't work and although raising children is an important job, atleast you're with people you love doing something that comes with the territory of parenthood.
This scares me to death. I want to settle down some day and own the little house with the picket fence, etc. I already have the job of my dreams (Law Enforcement Technician), and would love to have that extend into my personal life. The safest route of all is to simply not get married, and if push comes to shove I can get along that way.
Please post your marriage/divorce horror
stories in an effort to quell my dilemma.
I come from a divorced family. My dad was married and divorced prior to my mother. My dad is one of two, and has of course been divorced. My Mother is one of seven, 3 of whom have been divorced. My brother is divorced. My sister was just married in March and that marriage will actually have a great chance of lasting.
What's all this mean? I'm scared like a little bitch of getting married. I say time and time again that I will NEVER be married, and everyone gives you the story of how they said the same thing, and look where they ended up. I've broken up with 2 long term girlfriends because the desire for marriage was verbalized.
In all seriousness, how long can someone fend it off? When is the point at which your free will just breaks down and becomes a submissive mini-van driving nothing? I am not afraid of having to give up half, I'm afraid of becoming all of my friends that look like caged animals in their marriages.
I have this friend who used to be the man at parties and pickup games of any sport, the guy to yell road trip, etc etc etc. He's married with 2 kids, and he works his BALLS off at 3 jobs. He works bad hours so that he will have the most time with his kids as possible before they hit school age. He wants to come out and play basketball with us once a week, and his wife throws a tantrum. We play basketball from midnight-2AM, and his fucking wife pulls the "I spend all day with your children, and you want to go play basketball?"......mind you, this broad doesn't work and although raising children is an important job, atleast you're with people you love doing something that comes with the territory of parenthood.
This scares me to death. I want to settle down some day and own the little house with the picket fence, etc. I already have the job of my dreams (Law Enforcement Technician), and would love to have that extend into my personal life. The safest route of all is to simply not get married, and if push comes to shove I can get along that way.
Please post your marriage/divorce horror
stories in an effort to quell my dilemma.