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| Arthur Dent | posted on 10-18-2001 @ 9:25 AM |    | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Nov. 00  | quote: Tell you what, if I can't get on the board for some reason, I'll e-mail you the question of the day so you can post it for me. You have read my mind twice so far. To summarize so far: Guys P.O.V. You went out to a spot where the type of women your interested in hang out. You saw a woman who caught your interest and made made subtle eye contact. She looked at you and she smiled! Good sign. So, you walked over and introduced yourself confidently, but not egotistically. You began a conversation, sprinkled it with a little humor and a few tasteful compliments. You hit it off and she agreed to meet you for a date. So, from your conversation you picked up a few of her interests and planned them into your first date activities. Hint: The first words out of your mouth when you picked her up where "You look beautiful tonight." Or for Lent, "Damn Bitch, you slammin'!" ;) So, you met a wonderful woman, hit it off, and are at the begining of what could be a significant relationship. ::Maybe one of the ladies would like to write the woman's P.O.V.??:: And now: Sex: The How and the When No, I don't meen what position and what time of day. HOW do you introduce sex into a new relationship? Do you let her make the first move? Do you make it? Or does it just happen naturally without any planning? And WHEN dp you introduce it? Third date? Later? Sooner? | ||||
| heyladiladi STONER ON THE SNUKA CBH ROTISSERIE | posted on 10-18-2001 @ 9:54 AM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: May. 01 | I thought of something else... the first kiss. Probably best to get it out of the way after the 1st/2nd date, if you wait too long it will be even harder to do. My friends set me up w/a guy once. And they said "He's very shy, you'll have to make the first move." So I did, and the vibe I got from the kiss was a little ... stiff, or holding back. And that's what I ended up getting out of the whole thing anyway. A couple of months and that was over. :) How to introduce sex... if you talk alot on the phone, or even better AIM, it will probably come up. It's easier to get around to if you don't feel the person staring at you. But otherwise, I think it should come up naturally, when you are together. No reason a girl should 'wait' for him to make a move, really. If she wants him, snuggle up and let him know. :)  love, sex, drugs & rock & roll! | ||||
| Lent Black Rock Coalition Do you have a basketball in your car? | posted on 10-18-2001 @ 12:14 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: May. 00 | Since I'm in college. I don't know if there is such a thing called dating. I've always held on this strategy though. Talk to a girl(which for some reason I no longer have any difficulty) be friends with her, hang out with her and then ask her out. But for some reason I am starting to pay attention to what women's personalities are. For instance a girl may look hot but if she seems to have a slew of problems (esp. if she refuses to talk about them) it's sign to be get involved further. There's another thing I find irritating. Girls who say their "busy" or say "I'll see" REPEATEDLY in regards in a request to hang out somewhere. It tells me that 1)you lie a lot 2)you don't have an interest in me. Either be direct with me or I won't even waste my time on the phone or AIM. This girl who I was IMing this summer said she worked a lot, but I could tell she was lying. If you "worked" a lot, but had more time to IM people...that tells me something. I can start to smell bullshit a mile away now. I worked on average 60-70 hrs this summer and yet had time to hang out with this girl, but she relented. If you don't like me, just fucking say so! My feelings wont be hurt. I wont be the first time and it wont be the last. Its better you say than for me to guess about it. Its funny you learn these things as you go along. I plan to ask out this HOT tennis player who shall remain nameless sometime this weekend. Wish me luck guys. ;) She may seem "out of my league", but I can tackle anything. 
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| MomYou'dLikeToF' | posted on 10-18-2001 @ 12:34 PM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Sep. 01 | Man, I just wrote this really long reply and lost it...oh well, let me see if I can re-create perfection lol OK, I think that the most important thing is for a guy to be confident and have a great sense of humor-and a great body and looks certainly don't hurt. The best place for a first date in my opinion, is dinner out at a place w/great food and atmosphere that isn't too loud. This way you get to talk to guy and see whether you actually enjoy his company beyond what first interested you in him. If things go well at dinner then you can continue the date somewhere else, but if not, you just go your separate ways. BTW, I think it's always a good idea to drive yourself on a 1st date with someone you don't know well. As far as the best place to meet someone...I think any place that you go on a regular basis is a good place. Personally I met my husband at work, as did many of my friends, and also my parents and my sister and her husband. I also think the gym is a great place to meet someone IF your primary goal is to work out. Generally if you work out every day, you will see the same faces and get to know the other people working out over time. This way you also know that you have something in common. And as far as the 1st kiss goes, if there's chemistry I think a 1st date is fine, just let the guy make the 1st move. Personally, I wouldn't go beyond that on a 1st date. Just one girl's opinion ;) | ||||
| Drunken GW I Pissed on a Church to get this Status. | posted on 10-18-2001 @ 12:37 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Dec. 00 | quote: Oh yes Ladi it does. :) First time yah have sex with a new partner???....the woman has to initiate it. We as guys want it 24 - 7. We are always ready. Women aren't always ready. I mean psychologically. Man am I gonna get killed for this. It's just what I've seen in my life. Guys don't think about the consequences as much.  If your parents never had children, chances are you won't either. | ||||
| IrishAlkey Chucky Official OA.com Homo CUNT ROCKETTE Look who's laughing now, fuckers!!! Is It In Yet? JYD-4-LIFE [Sarcasm]Subzero316 fan since day one!!1!![/Sarcasm] "my mod powers are on temporary hiatus" This status is sponsored by: P®oJë©T M@¥hέm | posted on 10-18-2001 @ 1:20 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Veteran Registered: Aug. 01 | quote: Easy Lent, I think "tackling" is at least the fifth or sixth date. :) Also, it's easier to let her make the "sex" move, cuz if you make the move at the wrong time man is that awkward.  | ||||
| Psycho Bitch | posted on 10-18-2001 @ 2:39 PM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Jul. 01 | quote: Does anyone else see the irony in Lent using the word relented :) quote: THANK YOU!!!! Seriously, one of the biggest problems girls have with guys is we never know what they want. Just tell us if you don't think it's gonna work out, you met someone else, or you just lost interest. Yeah, it sucks and it'll hurt for a bit but we'll get over it. The worst part is wondering and being afraid to ask because we don't want to push or scare the guy away. Chances are the girl isn't too sure what she wants either and just wants to spend time with you to figure out where it will go. Sometimes guys assume we want more than we actually do and that freaks them out enough to run. Remember guys, just because we want to spend time with you doesn't mean we're trying to get a ring on our fingers. Maybe we just like being with you and just want to have fun. quote: That's not entirely true. The reason most women wait is because we know you want it 24-7. We just want to be sure that's not all you want before we do it. Unless of course, we just want to use you for sex :) As for when to do it. If it's someone you just met, wait. Wait as long as you have to in order to get to know him/her. If it's someone you've known for a bit, talked to a lot before ever hanging out, already been out in groups or with mutual friends then there's really nothing wrong with doing it on the "first" date. Of course you could always wait a bit and tease him first, just give him a little taste so he wants to come back for more. Just remember guys...if a girl initiates sex with you it's mainly because she really likes you and trusts you. Especially if she does things she wouldn't normally do. And don't ever ever think if she did it with you right away she'd do it with anyone, that is SO not true. If a girl you like wants you enough to have sex with you it means she thinks you're special :)  If I seem a little scattered There's an empty space where something used to beat I'm definitely shattered Like some stupid piece of china How pathetic of me [ÃAIMÃ ] [ÃE-MailÃ] | ||||
| Drunken GW I Pissed on a Church to get this Status. | posted on 10-18-2001 @ 2:51 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Dec. 00 | quote: Yup. quote: Sex..beer...food...sleep....in no particular order. :)....and an occasional backrub. If your parents never had children, chances are you won't either. | ||||
| heyladiladi STONER ON THE SNUKA CBH ROTISSERIE | posted on 10-18-2001 @ 3:05 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: May. 01 | That reminds me of something I heard once: Guys have 2 moods, hungry & horny. If he doesn't have a hard-on, give him a sandwich. :) love, sex, drugs & rock & roll! | ||||
| IrishAlkey Chucky Official OA.com Homo CUNT ROCKETTE Look who's laughing now, fuckers!!! Is It In Yet? JYD-4-LIFE [Sarcasm]Subzero316 fan since day one!!1!![/Sarcasm] "my mod powers are on temporary hiatus" This status is sponsored by: P®oJë©T M@¥hέm | posted on 10-18-2001 @ 3:11 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Veteran Registered: Aug. 01 | quote: Marry me? | ||||
| CriticsLoveSnatch i know better than to ask for a status from you mean ol' mods I shall call him mini-FTL | posted on 10-18-2001 @ 3:11 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Oct. 00 | quote: I would so rather know right off the bat if a girl isn't interested than hear a bunch of "i don't knows" and "maybes" and shit. from my experience this is just an excuse not to say what they really feel. i'd much rather know the truth and move on than spend god knows how long wondering about what she really thinks.  I don't know why I care so much, when I shouldn't care at all | ||||
| Psycho Bitch | posted on 10-18-2001 @ 5:42 PM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Jul. 01 | quote: Well yeah...that works for a guy you're already dating....but aren't we talking about the beginning of the "relationship"? Gotta get the guy to hang out before you can give him what he wants ;) quote: Very true..but just remember that works both ways. Us girls would also rather know if a guy isn't interested at all. The worst feeling in the world is not knowing if he is or isn't interseted and worrying if we are bugging him. And guys, if you are interested, don't assume she knows just by you showing it. Tell her, reassurance always good :) If I seem a little scattered There's an empty space where something used to beat I'm definitely shattered Like some stupid piece of china How pathetic of me [ÃAIMÃ ] [ÃE-MailÃ] | ||||
| Arthur Dent | posted on 10-19-2001 @ 10:15 AM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Nov. 00 | Can't beleive this fell to page two. Turning a friend into something more. Ever know someone you were good friends with, and then decide you want something more? Maybe she was dating someone you knew when you met her and you became friends? Or maybe you've just changed and see her in a different way? So, do you risk a good friendship seeking more? How do you do it? | ||||
| IrishAlkey Chucky Official OA.com Homo CUNT ROCKETTE Look who's laughing now, fuckers!!! Is It In Yet? JYD-4-LIFE [Sarcasm]Subzero316 fan since day one!!1!![/Sarcasm] "my mod powers are on temporary hiatus" This status is sponsored by: P®oJë©T M@¥hέm | posted on 10-19-2001 @ 11:01 AM | | |||
| O&A Board Veteran Registered: Aug. 01 | Both parties better be dead sure that each is willing to take the risk of losing the friendship because, in my opinion, it will almost always happen if the "new" relationship falls through. I say, don't even bother trying this move. You're probably mixing deep feelings for a beloved friend with those of desire just because the friendship is close. Even better, DON'T become GOOD friends with someone you really want (or just wanna fuk)! TRUST ME, I am really good at that! LoL | ||||
| Drunken GW I Pissed on a Church to get this Status. | posted on 10-19-2001 @ 11:52 AM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Dec. 00 | quote: Oral???? :) Actually the friend thing has only happened to me once. A chic that I sweated in highschool, she knew it too, so I never got it from her in highschool. But three years after highschool I got a call out of the blue from her in the summer. She wanted to hang out. I told her to come down to my place in Belmar and stay the night. The whole day we were drinking, I never thought of banging her. She was actually engaged, so I definatley thought nothing was going to happen. So it's like 8 pm and we're coming back from happy hour at DJ's and she's playfully pinching and grabbing at me, which was great, but I just thought she was gassed. I know I was. So we were going to change to get ready to go out to Bar A with the rest of my friends but she had a different plan. I was giving her a room to change when she called me in. Upon opening the door I saw her in just a t-shirt. What was going on? I thought to myself. But before I could rationalize the situation her tongue was licking my ear. My first words to her were "WTF?" I wanted to be sober if I did this bird. I could barely walk and she wants to bang now! What happened to your horny highschool days. Why now in my state of fuckedupness? But her whispers in my ear of what she wanted to do to me stopped me thinking. She said she always wanted to bang me but didn't want to reun our friendship. You C! I needed it in highschool. But I woke up and thought as clearly as I could........I was gonna bang this girl silly! So I did. Dropped tres nutts, with out the help of HGW :). By far the best I've ever had...but I'm a young man. I'm sure some lady out there will top her. I look forward to that day. Until then I just have to wait. ...p.s....She's married now and I haven't talked to her in 5 years. So I'm for saying that the friend thing doesn't work. Unless yah just wanna fuck. :) If your parents never had children, chances are you won't either. | ||||
| Psycho Bitch | posted on 10-19-2001 @ 3:09 PM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Jul. 01 | Dent, I think you may have killed the thread with this question :) Alkey hit it right on the head....you both have to be sure what you want. And remember, if it doesn't work out and you have mutual friends you'll ending up still seeing her/him frequently. Trust me...it is VERY uncomfortable to hang out in a group with your ex around. You mostly talked about the do's of dating, what about some of the don'ts??.... Like if you're out with a girl and you don't feel like driving her home don't ever ever put her on a bus. And humor is always good...unless it's Otto and George humor....a girl does not want to hear "You're a flithy whore" all the time...and if that isn't common sense to you, maybe you should just get a pet.... If I seem a little scattered There's an empty space where something used to beat I'm definitely shattered Like some stupid piece of china How pathetic of me [ÃAIMÃ ] [ÃE-MailÃ] | ||||
| Drunken GW I Pissed on a Church to get this Status. | posted on 10-19-2001 @ 3:13 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Dec. 00 | quote: [homer voice} It's funny cause it's not me[/homer voice] That truley sucks. Did he atleast pay for the bus? :) If your parents never had children, chances are you won't either. | ||||
| Arthur Dent | posted on 10-19-2001 @ 3:15 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Nov. 00 | PB, you might be right. :) I've been trying to think of more questions. Should we go back to other date questions (How long do you wait to call her? etc.) or, go on to relationship questions (What "anniversaries" do you celebrate? When do you introduce to the relatives? etc.) If anyone has any questions you'd like to ask and don't want to be the one to ask, e-mail them to me and I'll post them CONFIDENTIALLY. (I'm serious. I will NOT reveal who asked the questions.) | ||||
| heyladiladi STONER ON THE SNUKA CBH ROTISSERIE | posted on 10-19-2001 @ 3:41 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: May. 01 | quote:Just in bed... ;)  | ||||
| Wookie | posted on 10-20-2001 @ 6:42 AM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Mar. 01 | quote: Actually, it's still funny even if it is you! The bus broke down. WookiePoolParty: Now even more new and improved!! _____Crack Committee: Go M's!_____  This is a great country we live in. Son of NYPD, our real heroes. | ||||
| Sluggo667 SLASH's New Buddy, but shhh... I am not allowed to tell anyone. | posted on 10-20-2001 @ 2:21 PM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Apr. 01 | quote:Alkey...I can't dissagree with you more... We aren't in H.S. here... If you are both adult about it, You'll always be friends...No matter what. I was friends with my wife for a few years before we dated... She's my BEST FRIEND... And I can guarantee, if we ever split up... She still would be my friend...  Sluggo667PROUDAMERICAN!!! | ||||
| FoundryMusicHummercash | posted on 10-20-2001 @ 3:23 PM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: May. 00 | quote: I can see ur busting apart those stereotypes lent ;) GO DOWNLOAD MY WTC TRIBUTE MOVIE!!! You can also download my SCREENSAVER. | ||||
| Arthur Dent | posted on 10-22-2001 @ 9:56 AM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Nov. 00 | Here's some wuestions that were submitted by e-mail. Since they're all on the same theme, I'll post them together:quote: | ||||
| LunaBabe Ok, I know this is all a ploy, but, I'll play anyway. Dylan? BAH! I've heard BETTER! JYD-4-LIFE 'Shrooomer | posted on 10-22-2001 @ 10:11 AM | | |||
| O&A Board Regular Registered: Jun. 01 | quote: Ahhh...yes, so true, Sluggo. But, I have found these types to be a real rarity. Not many people have the brain capacity to think this way, however, I have been fortunate to have some people like this in my life. Usually people just make assumptions and run away and hold a grudge. Oh well...thier loss, I guess.  | ||||
| Jennitalia | posted on 10-22-2001 @ 11:32 AM | | |||
| Psychopath Registered: Sep. 00 | quote: Because it's more fun that way. It's called being a tease  "Like, Mother, it's my life ok...so if i want to live on a beach and walk around naked..." | ||||
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